Anonymous asked: On a hugo-related note: has he actually created ANYTHING relating to empowering women/changing sexist attitudes towards them? He seems to just cry out 'what about the meennn' and victimising himself, whilst telling women to get cum on their faces and how they should be educating their daughters. He seriously seems like a major MRA in feminist's clothing. I really don't understand why his fanbase is so doting.
It’s also quite telling the most of the hate we’ve gotten on the Feminists Against Hugo Schwyzer has been from MRAs. I’ve gotten anon messages from MRAs, MRAs have attacked me on Twitter over this, etc. MRAs LOVE Hugo.
clownyprincess asked: Phrasing like "excuuuuuuuuuse me" and "I'm sure I'll get some LOVELY messages later" and "SIGH, I'm just posting this without comment, GEEZE" are all way passive-aggressive & position you as a victim. If you can't handle the responsibility of a controversial blog - which this one was inevitably going to be - then you shouldn't have started it. Telling people conversations would be more progressive if they came off anon is dismissive & implying they have nothing valid to say & that they should..
[contd]… compromise their privacy when you have given no concrete indication you will genuinely listen to them BECAUSE you’re being so passive-aggressive. I can’t imagine why anyone would just up & lie about Bliss for the heck of it - nor would I imagine all WOC share a braintrust & therefore same opinion on him - & as it’s been indicated detractors of Bliss get trolled, obvs they have more to lose by attaching names to their posts than those WOC supporting him.
It’s like you have no idea how Tumblr works, and it’s cute.
I don’t really care what you think, since you’re just another white girl and all. If WOC want to share their thoughts on James Bliss then I’ll be happy to publish them, whichever side of the fence they fall on, and yes, even if they’re anonymous…but your obnoxious ranting and telling me how to run this? No. No thanks. Not interested anymore. IDGAF.
clownyprincess asked: WHOAH. WHITE GIRL. Fellow white girl here to tell you that your passive-aggression & playing yourself off as a victim over this James Bliss thing is NOT OKAY. You set this tumblr up as a safe-space for WOC & when they indicate it isn't safe, you demand proof, indicate you won't take people seriously if they're anon (again, a demand for "proof") make snarky remarks about the angry messages you're getting - & wonder why people still don't feel safe? Are still angry at you? WAKE. UP.
What the hell? No one is playing the victim. Sorry for expressing that I am in a difficult position here. And as far demanding proof goes, uh, I think it’s completely reasonable given the contradictory messages I’m getting. You do understand that I’m getting conflicting messages, right? My inbox has exploded with messages from WOC with names attached saying wait, no, James Bliss is nothing like Hugo Schwyzer. Saying we like James Bliss, we think he’s a good ally, etc. So excuuuuse me for being suspicious of a bunch of angry anons, but this is fucking Tumblr, of course I’m going to be distrustful of anons when I’ve got actual WOC who I know and converse with a regular basis telling me that they’re full of shit.
I mean, fuck, I don’t know what you expect me to do here. I’m sure you would do soooo much better. I’m publishing the messages and that’s all I can do.
And also? This Tumblr wasn’t set up as a safe space for anyone. This Tumblr was set up to rail on Hugo Schwyzer before I even knew about his awful history with WOC. So all this shit is brand new to me and I am learning and you need to get over yourself.
Anonymous asked: regardless of how anyone feels about james-bliss, the effect of his presence in this conversation is undeniable. he and his fans need to take a good look at that. personally i would have no problem with james-bliss or anyone appreciating him if it didn't come at the expense of other POC and intra-POC relations, so yes i'm mad that a WHITE MAN does this to us.
so-treu asked: i'd like to know where any of us said all his critics were white. link plz. don't worry, i'll wait.
blackraincloud asked: Just wanna let folks know that I still have anon turned on. If you're Black and wanna chat about this, my inbox is open. Please read my posts about this. I don't care if you hate or distrust james-bliss. I just think we should be clear about which of HS and TW's behaviors are problematic. I don't think lumping james w/those other two is accurate or helpful.
Anonymous asked: you think this "say that shit to my face" routine and deliberately misrepresenting all of james-bliss's critics as WHITE is going to make anyone want to have a conversation with your asses openly? fuck yall. it isn't in good faith. i'm not putting my neck out for your dogpile. i see how you do. fuck yall.
Sigh. Publishing this because it’s the ethical thing to do, I guess.
so-treu asked: tell these people to come talk to ME. if you have something to say to me, say it TO ME. i have an ask and I'm turning anon off. if you believe so much in what you're saying, stand by it.
I DO NOT NECESSARILY ENDORSE ANYTHING IN THE MESSAGES THAT HAVE BEEN PUBLISHED
I just don’t want to silence WOC. So for now, I’m in kind of a bind.
Lord, beer me strength.